How Gaining Over 30 lbs. Changed My Life for the Better

My story is definitely not the typical before and after weight loss tale, and that’s okay. It’s the story of how finding peace with my food and my body gave me the freedom that being a size 6 never did or never will.

If you are considering going on another diet because you’re unhappy with your weight, this article is for you.

Two years ago, I had a rude awakening. After finding and maintaining my small size 6 body and remaining at that weight for over two years, I began to gain weight very quickly. I had struggled with food and body image for 30+ years, but when I became a vegetarian three years earlier, I thought I had found “the” answer to controlling my weight.

I was no stranger to yo-yo dieting. In fact, I had dieted for a good part of my life. You know the routine. Losing weight (in my case, usually around 30-40 lbs) and then gaining it all back again (usually plus more). It’s a confidence-crushing cycle that many of us have become accustomed to doing.

What made this weight gain different from all the others was that I was now a Certified Holistic Health Coach and the way I looked was important for my job…or so I thought. I remember thinking to myself “How will my clients see me as healthy if I’m not thin?” and “How will my clients take advice from me about eating if I cannot stop eating myself?” These thoughts consumed me and often made me feel ashamed and confused.

What no one knew is that the reason I had gained the weight was because I suffered with a serious bout of depression. I diligently took herbal remedies and tried doing more of the things that provided some relief like yoga and meditation, but they were not helping enough to make a difference in my day-to-day life. After suffering for nearly a year, I decided to go on anti-depressant medication. For those of you who aren’t aware of this, anti-depressant medications (specifically SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) drugs)1 are notorious for weight gain. As hard as I tried to control this with a nutritious diet and exercise, I was not able to escape these side effects. So, while I crawled out of my depressive state, my appetite became ravenous and my waistline grew and grew until I was no longer able to fit into any of my clothes. It was a very emotional time in my life.

I chose not to weigh myself because I knew the number would likely devastate me, but based on the new clothes I bought, I suspected I gained between 30-40 lbs. Aside from the emotional side to this, there was a physical piece too. To have your body grow from a size 6 to a size 12 is not easy, especially in just a few short months. I felt sluggish, tired and uncomfortable often.
I remember feeling like I was carrying big heavy sand bags on my back. The heavier I got, the bigger the sand bags felt. It was emotionally and spiritually debilitating at times. The most frightening part was that I didn’t see an end in sight because I was like a bottomless pit and could not stop eating.

On an emotional level, my confidence was shot, my self-esteem had plummeted, and I was more embarrassed and uncomfortable than I had ever been about my body.

Once I began to come out of the depressive fog I was in, I was determined to heal my body. I knew that I couldn’t tolerate going on a diet to lose the weight, but I didn’t know what else to do.
By sheer luck, I stumbled on the book Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch. Reading this book was like a breath of fresh air! Once I began living this “no-diet” approach to life, I began to feel more hopeful for the first time in months. Within a few months of practicing Intuitive Eating, my life began to transform in ways I never thought imaginable.

I want to be clear that my life didn’t transform because I lost weight. My life transformed because my perception of how I viewed a “healthy” body changed. I also learned this:
I didn’t have to be thin to be healthy.
I didn’t have to be thin to be fit.
I could develop a healthy relationship with food regardless of how many years I’d struggled.
I can love my body unconditionally.
Feeling sluggish and uncomfortable was only short term.
I can listen to my body and honor its needs on a physical and emotional level.
I am an amazingly strong woman and my experience only intensified that.
I can inspire others even though I’m not a size 4/6 anymore.

Dieting will never improve your relationship with food and body the way practicing self-love and self-compassion will. Practicing Intuitive Eating and taking control of my depression were instrumental in giving me back my life after feeling so out of control with food for so many years. This former size 6, now size 12 go-getter, is happier and has a healthier relationship with food than she ever thought possible. I eat nutritious foods; I’m healthy by medical standards; I don’t deprive or restrict myself from eating foods that I enjoy; I acknowledge daily that I’m more than my weight; and love to move my body in ways that I enjoy without being militant about it. I have found true food and body freedom and I’m so grateful!

Michelle Vina-Baltsas is a Food & Body Relationship Specialist. She is passionate about helping women repair their relationships with food & body so that they can finally move on with their lives without the constant preoccupation with food and feeling that their bodies don’t measure up. Michelle is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, Certified Holistic Health Coach and former “foodie”. She teaches her women how to trust themselves around food again and seek true satisfaction with food without guilt, shame or hesitation using the Intuitive Eating model. Connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and on her website MichelleVinaBaltsas.com.

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